Divorce often feels like one of the most difficult emotional trials throughout the human experience. As you stand before friends and family on your wedding day, the thought that you will one day hate each other never crosses your mind. You never think that the person you pledge your future to will end up devastating it. With divorce comes a type of death - of trust, of dreams, and of a life you spent years building.
A marriage is more than a ceremony. It’s even more than commitment or sharing the day-to-day aspect of your lives. Over time, a physiological connection grows, which links you two together through attachment systems.
An Energetic Severing
Energetically speaking, we’re connected to one another. You become attached through the energy system of your shared experience. Words and phrases have the same meanings, places and people evoke similar emotional responses.
As a married couple, you live and build within this shared energy system. So, when divorce occurs, there’s a shattering on an energetic level.
Think of an attachment system as a bundle of cords binding you to another person, your ex-spouse. After divorce, they can use these cords to toss you to and fro, sending immense pain through your system. This happens because of the connection.
It also feels very confusing. The person you once loved more than anyone or anything, is now the person causing you the most pain. And you may want to cause them pain too.
The connection is different now, and not in a good way.
Your Physical Response
The body responds to trauma in different ways depending on the circumstances. Here are a few examples of how the body may respond.
Gastric Issues. If the divorce came as a surprise, you may experience a wide array of gastric distress. Perhaps you’ll have problem keeping food down, or may find yourself eating way too much.
Nervous System. Because of all the anxiety surrounding the situation, your nervous system will get on high alert. You’ll find your patience lower than usual, overreactions to simple issues may become a common theme, and you may get stressed out over small issues that wouldn’t have bothered you before.
Sleep and Rest. Sleep will also become difficult. Depending on your emotional state, you may have insomnia or be sleeping way too much. Moments of sleep may get disrupted by strange and disturbing dreams.
Immune System. Due to the high levels of stress, your immune system may becomes compromised. Colds and viruses will likely affect you more than usual. Also, your mind may feel foggy or confused, and your body will experience high levels of fatigue.
These are just a few of the ways your physical body may respond to this trauma. However, it’s not the only chaotic reaction you will experience.
The Effect on Your Energy
As with any aspect of life, the physical body is often just a mirror for your emotional wellbeing. In the case of divorce, your energy body is affected just as your physical one. With a bit of introspection, you’ll find that injuries to the energy body manifests as physical issues.
Because you’re so deeply connected to your ex-spouse, your heart chakras are often the first area to feel affected. And if they choose to tug on those imaginary cords, you’ll become deeper wounded in this area. It’ll manifest as a physical pain in the heart, and you may experience illness centered around the respiratory system.
Another common energy wound happens in the root chakra. When this happens, you’ll feel ungrounded and unsafe. Ask a ground of divorcees, and you’ll see this theme abound.
Use Energy Healing During Divorce
Because of all the energetic pain, energy healing serves as a remarkable support during (and after) your divorce. It can help clear out the negative energy infiltrating your heart and mind. You can also find understanding about what is going on in your body and spirit.
When divorce is coupled with complications - abuse, infidelity, addictions - the pain feels even more intense. It’s important for you to dive in and understand this pain, not run from it. In these cases, especially, ongoing energy healing is a tremendous help.
Are you, or someone you know, going through a divorce? Reach out today for your complementary energy healing session!