Grief is a common response to unfortunate life situations. It usually accompanies loss, either of a loved one or a situation we are emotionally invested. There are all kinds of emotions that accompany grief, such as sadness and anger.
Acknowledging your feelings is the first step in healing from it. Gaining a deeper understanding of the grieving process will help alleviate the guilt that often comes with grief. You’re grieving, yet you feel guilty that you aren’t moving past it fast enough. Remember, there is no set time limit on grief.
Healing from grief is a process, just like healing from a broken bone. It will take time and probably more effort than healing from a physical injury.
Today, we’ll be examining grief with a focus on understanding it and how heal from it.
The Many Causes of Grief
Grief can be caused by a number of life events. These events are not always obvious. Some of the common reasons why we feel grief are:
- Death of a loved one
- Death of a pet
- Losing a job you enjoyed
- Losing health
- The ending of a relationship, romantic or friendly
- Loss of a loved one’s health
- Moving to a new home
Each of these life events deals with losing something that was once cherished or had an extended emotional investment. What is causing you to feel grief?
The Stages of Grief
Everyone feels grief differently and deals with it uniquely. However, most people will go through the same few stages as they move through the healing process. Understanding the stages of grief will allow you to accept where you’re at and experience that stage fully.
- Denial – “This isn’t happening, not to me.”
- Anger – “This is unfair, who is to blame?”
- Bargaining – “If this can be undone, I’ll never do ___ again (or do ___).”
- Depression – “I can’t deal with life right now.”
- Acceptance – “That happened and I can’t change it.”
Every stage is part of the healing process. These stages don’t always occur sequentially, and you might experience some stages over and over again. Intentionally focusing on healing from grief will empower you to reach acceptance.
How to Heal from Grief
The most important factor in healing from grief is not grieving alone. Grieving with others will enhance your healing process. Involving others will help you feel connected with another human being, something that greatly aids healing from grief. Below are some great sources of support to help you heal:
Family and friends
Lean on people who you know care for you. It’s common for those grieving to pull away from loved ones, but it’s really the time to draw them closer. People usually don’t know how to support people who are grieving, so be direct when you ask for support. Perhaps you need help with funeral arrangements or finding a new job. You may even just need a shoulder to cry on. Whatever you need, asking loved ones is a great place to find it.
There are support groups for people who are experiencing all types of grief. Being around others who are grieving, sharing stories and holding each other up will do wonders for your healing process. You can contact hospitals and counseling centers to find the right support group for you.
Talk to a counselor
Don’t be too proud to reach out to a professional. Therapists and counselors are trained in helping people through a variety of issues, including overwhelming grief. A counselor will provide you with an ear to talk to and actionable advice for dealing with your unique situation.
Seek Out Holistic Healing
Healers who take a holistic approach focus on your body, mind and soul. Grief can impact every part of you. Energy healers with Relief from Pain will aid in accelerating the recovery process. They’ll help you relax, clear your mind and work through the eotional turmoil.