Anger is a natural emotion that helps us navigate the modern world. While many view it as a negative emotion, it doesn’t have to be that way.
If you learn from anger and then let it pass, it’s a positive emotion. It becomes negative when it’s held on to and ingested. It becomes a poison that festers within our minds – and bodies – until it’s intentionally released.
Think of anger as a “pressure release valve” for deeper internal issues. When that valve isn’t opened all the way – or at all – anger becomes a powerful force for internal destruction. Yet, releasing anger in an uncontrolled way usually results in more anger coming back in your direction.
So – what do you do?
In today’s article, I’ll be discussing how to release anger as it arises, along with dealing with long-held repressed anger. Both will catalyze a healing process that will bring about a great sense of peace and serenity.
Three Rules for Resolving Anger
For both newly arising anger and long-held anger, there are three rules for resolving it in a healthy manner:
- Don’t hold anger in, ever
- Don’t release it purely as pain
- Only release anger with acceptance
I know, I know… For a few simply written rules, they sure are complex.
As a philosophy, Taoism teaches that peace is the path of a true warrior. A Taoist trained in Tai Chi may know how to defeat his opponent, but a fist raised in anger means the warrior has already lost.
Anger is sometimes necessary in communication. In some situations, it’s an appropriate and natural response. Showing your anger, much like a roaring lion, illustrates that you’re willing to retain your rights and defend your peace. A lion roars to prevent a fight, not to initiate it. That’s where we humans often get it wrong.
Most modern anger is not necessary, but understanding its use helps with creating acceptance. You don’t need to feel guilty for feeling angry!
A Powerful Technique for Resolving Anger in the Moment
Learning how to handle anger is one of the most useful skills you can learn in your life. Mastering it will take more than reading the following outline. You’ll need to work at it everyday.
With enough practice, you’ll know how to handle anger when it arises...
1. Take a Deep Breath
You’ve likely heard about the importance of breathing through anger, but that’s only the beginning. Take slow, deep breaths and continue doing so for the rest of this process.
2. Sit With It
Look at the anger as an external influence to your state of being. Maybe apply a color to it or visualize it in another way.
Avoid trying to answer or immediately release the anger, just sit with it for a moment.
3. Accept It
Here’s the tough part. Accept that you’ve become angry for whatever reason. You’ve had a natural, emotional response to something – and that’s totally fine.
4. Let it Go
Intentionally release your anger.
If you’re visualizing it, imagine that color leaving your consciousness with every breath. Imagine that anger being released into the Earth or to Outer Space, where it will dissipate.
Move your body around. Stand up and move around in whatever way feels the most natural. Release the rest of the static that may be lingering.
Working through Repressed Anger
Most of us have something we’ve been angry about for a while.
The above technique helps avoid repression and may help with deep seeded anger, but working through repressed anger is a process of personal healing.
Working with a trained energy healer will help you bring up repressed anger, and deal with in a safe and peaceful way.