These two things go hand-in-hand. If you’re constantly berating yourself then you’ll systematically destroy your own potential.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to have an internal critic. With the right balance, that voice can guide you into your truth, help you become a better person and strengthen your weaknesses. Unfortunately, many of us don’t have that balance.
Instead, you’re plagued with harmful phrases and thoughts.
There’s something systematically different in saying to yourself, I really need to workout more and looking in the mirror and thinking I’m a disgusting person that doesn’t deserve love.
It’s time to put an end to the negativity.
In today’s article, I’d like to walk you through some proactive steps that will help you end the negative self-talk that leads to self-sabotage.
Realize the Problem is Usually Small
When anxiety and stress leads to negative self-talk and self-sabotage, the grandeur of the situation tends to get blown out of proportion. A seemingly insignificant instance gets turned into a life-ending problem.
For example, let’s say you have an embarrassing blunder while out with friends…
Someone with negative self-talk will spend the rest of the night beating themselves up about their embarrassment. It gets inflated into an epic whirlwind of failure that you’ll never recover from. When, in reality, that’s simply not the case.
In most instances, people move on from your embarrassment as soon as the chuckle ends.
You’re the one continuing to dwell on it. And that can destroy you on the inside. Instead of letting it, acknowledge the embarrassment, put it in a box and move on.
Suddenly, I’m such an idiot; everyone will think differently of me from now on… turns into, Man, that was a poor choice of words. Next time, I’ll be more careful.
And that’s the end of it.
Then, just like everyone else, move past it.
Don’t Be Afraid to Challenge Yourself
The inner critic is challenging us at every step. And, most of the time, we just let the negativity spread without ever fighting back.
It’s time to change that.
Don’t be afraid to challenge what that critic is saying of you. Just because it’s the voice in your own head doesn’t make it true. Next time you try to tell yourself something negative, acknowledge it and fight back with a positive statement.
Much like any bully in life, it will back down once you start confronting it.
What Would Your Best Friend Say?
Best friends are the people we surround ourselves with that lift us up and make us better people. They’re always there for us, cheering us on and encouraging us to follow our dreams.
And that’s why we love them so much.
Well, it’s time to be your own best friend. If you noticed, I pointed out that they both lift us up and make us a better person. See, it is possible to both at the same time. You don’t need to speak negatively to yourself in order to generate a positive result.
That method tends to fail 100% of the time.
So, next time you don’t know how to positively encourage yourself, think of your best friend. What would he or she say to you in that moment?
You Deserve Positivity, Love and Adoration
We all do.
There’s no one so bad that they don’t deserve love. And the ones that we think don’t deserve it are usually the ones that need it most.
I was always told, If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all. This was in regard to my conversation with others. However, I believe it’s a strong mantra for those that struggle with negative self-talk as well.
If you’re not telling yourself uplifting, positive and nice things, just don’t say them at all.