I love you.
It's a phrase we see a lot on this day as we become drawn to the idea of expressing our love to each other. And yet, despite the magical feelings we often attribute to true love, many spend days like this more broken, depressed and lonely than ever.
Our world is full of lonely people. Each of us have experienced this crippling despair at some point. We've all felt broken.
This creates a deep craving for true love which often goes unfulfilled. And I think that’s why we become enamoured by Valentine’s Day. It’s a distraction. Instead of experiencing true healing, we fill the hollow space of our soul with chocolate, kind words and consumerist-driven behaviours.
But it doesn't have to be this way.
In today's post, I'd like to take you through a concept which has permeated my heart over the years: healing is love and love is healing.
Love is found within the silence.
Noise fills our lives and distracts us from the painfully quiet moments which reveal our deepest pain. I remember a friend telling me of a time where every moment had to be filled with some sort of background noise – the television or music were her favourites.
After diving deeper into analyzing this new habit, she realized something: the noise created a buffer between the outside world and her internal chaos. It became an effective – yet destructive – tool for burying pain.
At the root of the problem, she didn't love herself. In fact, she went as far as to acknowledge her feelings as intense self-hatred.
How did she get to this place? By finally embracing the silence through meditation.
It was only at that point she could start moving toward healing. Acknowledging your emptiness is the first step on a path to fulfillment.
What I want for you.
Valentine’s Day is often a holiday riddled with hopes, expectations, desires. Or it’s a time where you feel consumed with ambivalence, fear or even dread.
Regardless of your perspective on the day itself, it's an opportunity – a new chance to love yourself and find a true path of healing. So, with that in mind, I'd like to encourage you to do some of the following today…
- Participate in an activity you love.
- Smell something you love.
- Listen to an old song you love.
- Eat something you love.
- Call or check in with someone you love.
- Sit in silence for ten minutes and become open to loving yourself.
These activities will begin to stir true healing. Once you've become open to the journey, you can continue taking steps in the right direction. You'll learn how to engage in activities like energy healing which can bring you even deeper into complete restoration. And, ultimately, you'll have so much love for yourself it will overflow into the lives of those around you.
That's real healing– a mending so deep it inspires those around you.
It’s okay to take care of yourself first.
It's wonderful to focus on our love for others, especially during Valentine's Day. However, we can't have truly abundant relationships with others – which we'll discuss a bit later this month – until we find truth within ourselves.
I encourage you to embrace all the festivities of this holiday. Enjoy the company of the ones you love, but don't ignore this chance of internal exploration.
My friend is now going and sharing her story with others who struggle with similar self-hating perspectives. It's amazing to watch how the energy created by her own revelation of love is now overflowing and helping transform the lives of others.
I want that for you. I want that for all of us.