Forgiving others is difficult enough, but forgiving yourself might seem impossible.
Truthfully, forgiving yourself may be one of the most challenging things you’ll ever do. If someone else hurt you, they’re eventually in the past and not in your present. Yet, we have to live with ourselves every day. Not forgiving yourself will certainly carry into other facets of your life, possibly harming other relationships.
Failing to forgive yourself may result in deeper feelings of guilt, anger or resentment. This cycle can happen over and over again until you start to dislike yourself.
And it all stems from a lack of self-forgiveness.
You won’t have all the answers after reading this, but you will have a head start on the journey to self forgiveness. Along the way, you’ll likely be dealing with deep-seeded resentment, anger and trauma accumulated throughout your life.
In today’s post, I’ll get you started on the path towards forgiving yourself. Keep walking down this path and your life will certainly improve, starting with liking yourself more.
The First Steps Towards Self Forgiveness
Ultimately, being able to forgive yourself is a state of mind. As with other states of mind, it can be cultivated with practice.
One of your first steps on this path is to begin, or enhance, a meditation practice. Meditation doesn’t have to be what most people think it is – a seated posture with your eyes closed. While that’s certainly a great technique, anything that brings your attention to your breath and present state of mind counts as meditation.
A long walk taken once per day – as long as you focus on inner stillness – can be meditation.
Tai Chi is often described as a moving meditation. Kung Fu masters enjoy standing meditation as a form of training their body and mind at the same time. Spending some quiet time in nature is a great way to meditate.
Meditation is the first step towards self-forgiveness because it will help you identify what you need to forgive yourself for. While you may have a general idea, meditation will focus your mind on the present moment and allow you to observe the troubling thoughts that may arise.
Continuing the Journey with Acceptance
Everyone that has ever existed has had flaws.
Unfortunately, you’re not the exception to that statement. Accepting yourself as you are is a powerful stride towards self-forgiveness. Understanding that while you may have areas you wish to improve upon, having weaknesses doesn’t make you any less than you are.
Learning not to compare yourself to others is crucial. For one, you don’t know the entire story of anyone else. Everyone has hidden struggles, even if they trust you completely. Most people are also working on acceptance and self-forgiveness.
Keep Your Body Healthy
Trauma and stress caused by the lack of self-forgiveness often creates pain throughout your body. As such, taking care of your body will also help unravel your inner turmoil. Find a fitness hobby that you truly enjoy and do it often.
Taking care of your body happens from the inside and outside. Couple regular physical activity with a healthy diet full of fruits and vegetables. Consult your physician or a nutritionist to really cater to your specific needs.
Seeking help to take care of your body can help in leaps and bounds. A healing session with an energy healer can aid your journey towards self-forgiveness in profound ways.
Our specialists can help balance your energy to reduce emotional and mental stress. With stress reduced, your ability to identify what needs to be forgiven will be enhanced – as will the state of mind required for self-forgiveness.